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It's Not Supposed to Be This Way: Finding Unexpected Strength When Disappointments Leave You Shattered

Author: Lysa TerKeurst

ISBN-10: 0718039858
ISBN-13: 9780718039851

Publishing Date: November 13, 2018

Availability in London: Creation Bookstore.

Available in: Paperback, CD

Reviews courtesy of: Goodreads



New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst unveils her heart amid shattering circumstances and shows readers how to live assured when life doesn't turn out like they expected.

What do you do when God’s timing seems questionable, His lack of intervention hurtful, and His promises doubtful?

Life often looks so very different than we hoped or expected. Some events may simply catch us off guard for a moment, but others shatter us completely. We feel disappointed and disillusioned, and we quietly start to wonder about the reality of God’s goodness.

Lysa TerKeurst understands this deeply. But she's also discovered that our disappointments can be the divine appointments our souls need to radically encounter God. In It's Not Supposed to Be This Way, Lysa invites us into her own journey of faith and, with grit, vulnerability, and honest humor, helps us to:

* Stop being pulled into the anxiety of disappointment by discovering how to better process unmet expectations and other painful situations.
* Train ourselves to recognize the three strategies of the enemy so we can stand strong and persevere through unsettling relationships and uncertain outcomes.
* Discover the secret of being steadfast and not panicking when God actually does give us more than we can handle.
* Shift our suspicion that God is cruel or unfair to the biblical assurance that God is protecting and preparing us.
* Know how to encourage a friend and help her navigate hard realities with real help from God's truth.


Cara Putman rated It's Not Supposed to Be This Way 5 out of 5 Stars
This book came exactly when I needed it, and I haven't stopped recommending it since. In It's Not Supposed to be This Way Lysa addresses the things and hurts that happen in our lives that leave us questioning where God has gone. The disappointment that comes from loving and following Him, obeying Him, and watching your world fall apart. And she challenges us to lean into Him in this space between two gardens and trust His heart. In the pages, she is vulnerable, focused, wise, and encouraging. I truly want to sit at her kitchen table, hold her hand and prayer with her, and then have her do the same as I cry over my disappointments. What I appreciate most about this book though is the way that she relentlessly points us back to our Father. There are prayers. There are Bible verses. There are questions to force us to wrestle with our fears. And in my copy of the book, there are underlines and "Yes!" throughout. I highly recommend this book and can't wait for it to release so I can read through it with others. (less)

Nancy Larimer rated It's Not Supposed to Be This Way 5 out of 5 Stars
"It 's Not Supposed to Be this Way : Finding Unexpected Strength When Disappointments Leave You Shattered" Is a Christian living book and very practical. Lysa is very candid and open about the real struggles she is going through. She shares about her broken and struggling marriage. She shares about her health issues. She reminds the reader that God is still there even when we are disappointed. She experienced a time when everything went wrong and she wants us to know God will still be there and the reader should not allow their thoughts to think that God is not there or does not care for them. She says the devil wants us to be pulled away from God when we experience disappointments. It is such a rich book and vital for the tough world we live in. She reminds us to read God 's word and remember that He keeps His promises. She reminds us to continue reading God's word and not allow us to let our busy life and trials to keep us from turning to God. and His word. The book comes with a study guide and DVDs if the reader wants to purchase them. The book would be good for a group Bible study or individual study. It helps our world to hear about others trials so they do not feel alone. I think if a Women's Bible study used this book for their study it would sure be rich and benefit the group to reflect and share on how the book has impacted their lives with each other. I appreciate the publisher for sharing this book with me for a review. I will share the book with pastors, , facebook, my blog, Amazon, friends, Goodreads. I hope many people read this book and experience the rich truths and values in the book. . It is a very practical and useful book.

Andrea Simanson rated It's Not Supposed to Be This Way 5 out of 5 Stars
This book helped me shift my focus to God as I'm going through some very difficult circumstances. Lysa's openness about the hardships she's walking through help me feel I'm not alone and can trust God through the pain.

Kimberly Key rated It's Not Supposed to Be This Way 5 out of 5 Stars
Her Best Yet!
I have enjoyed all of her books but she really dug deep this time and her transparency has touched my life. Looking forward to her next book already!

Crystal Star rated It's Not Supposed to Be This Way 5 out of 5 Stars
Excellent. A must read!

Heather Garcia rated It's Not Supposed to Be This Way 5 out of 5 Stars
So raw and transparent! That’s how Christian books should be.

Amy Langmaack rated It's Not Supposed to Be This Way 5 out of 5 Stars
There are some times when you receive a book and know that it was meant for such a time as this. Reading this book was one of those moments for me. Through sharing her story, Lysa TerKeurst reminds us that life is not a fairy tale just waiting to happen. Life is hard and full of disappoints. And yet - God still is good. I've been wrestling with that truth for a long while, and the pages of It's Not Supposed to Be This Way reminded me that I'm not alone on this journey. God is still moving when we can't see what the ultimate plan is. He provides us with hope through scripture.

This book is for anyone who's ever felt like life isn't going the way it should. And don't we all feel that way sometimes in our lives?

This book is refreshingly honest, acknowledging the hard while at the same time pushing us to trust God and see his goodness even in the hard. It's a reminder to fight for what we know is true. And to look outside of our expectations for this life and see what God wants for us in this life.

Kara Mulligan rated It's Not Supposed to Be This Way 5 out of 5 Stars
Like all of Lysa's book, she shares her story, but reminds us it's not about our story but about Jesus and what He came to do. She points the reader to scripture and encourages no matter if your disappoint me is "big" or "small." She writes this story as it plays out, not knowing what the outcome will be, but knowing God is good.

Abby Stevens rated It's Not Supposed to Be This Way 4 out of 5 Stars
Who among us hasn’t found her/himself staring in the mirror, broken in ways previously unimaginable, whispering, desperate to believe, “It’s not supposed to be this way. Right?”

If you’re lucky, this hasn’t yet been you. If you’re honest, it already has.

Lysa Terkurst’s newest book tackles those moments: moments when life is indecipherable and unruly; when it is violent and downright cruel. Digging deep into her own life and experiences -- starting with the story of her own marriage falling apart and bringing the reader through to her cancer diagnosis and double mastectomy -- Terkurst’s voice is honest and raw. There were places where I wanted to look away from what seemed too vulnerable and real. But her focus is true, and she relies on Godly truths to address the questions and anguish of “this life between two gardens.”

Each chapter ends with a section entitled “Going to the Well,” where readers can pause to “Remember, Receive, and Reflect” on what was presented in the preceding pages, as well as a scripted prayer. For someone who has – or is -- holding the pieces of their life in weary hands, it’s easy enough to realize that sometimes someone else needs to give you the words to pray. The book ends with several pages that simply capture all the scripture used throughout. Passages and verses in their entirety, with references, I saw them and thought of all the time spent in other books, trying to find that one verse that I remember underlining in pink, toward the bottom of the page . . .

She begins the book by issuing an invitation, really, to face life’s disappointments with honesty and head-on. “The most tightly knit aspects of life snag, unravel, and disintegrate before our very eyes. And so we are epically disappointed. But we aren’t talking about it. We don’t even feel permission to do so or we don’t just know how to process our disappointments. Especially not in Bible study or Sunday church. . . . If we don’t open up a way to process our disappointments, we’ll be tempted to let Satan rewrite God’s love story as a negative narrative, leaving us more than slightly suspicious of our Creator.”

Terkurst’s honesty and real-life/real-time anecdotes serve to make this book feel like a heart-to-heart that’s taking place in messy buns and sweats over cups of coffee and, hopefully, cobbler of some sort. There was something else recognizable in this book, though, that – while also reminiscent of a conversation with a mentor – also made me pause.

Although every truth that she expressed is true, there seemed to be a lot of “trust God,” “remember God is telling you a love story,” “God is using this for his glory and for your best,” that would make me consider carefully who I handed this book to. For those of us who have grown up in the church, the church answers – true though they may be – are sometimes less than useful in our real lives. “I know I’m supposed to trust God, but HOW? How do I ‘let go’ and give this to him so I can sleep?” The practical steps that so many people whose lives have crumbled crave are missing.

This is a book full of spiritual truth but not of practical help. It’s a book of what to know and how to believe but not of what to do and how to behave. (This would, in no way, keep me from recommending it, but it would guide me in understanding to whom it would be most useful.)

My grandmother died when I was in my early 20s, while I was living in a foreign country. I spent days wandering the city, thinking of her and weeping, and one day I went home and picked up my Bible. I felt lost. As I opened its pages, I remember saying, “This can’t be right. This can’t be the way it was supposed to be.” It wasn’t. It isn’t. And Terkurst’s book just might be the resource to help people find the truths they need to walk through it.

Crista Kettenhofen rated It's Not Supposed to Be This Way 5 out of 5 Stars
It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way, written by Lysa TerKeurst, has earned a (rare) five-star rating from me. I loved this book, and will be re-reading it, slowly, deliberately, and with purpose. It offers accessible ways to walk more closely with God.

Using the platform of her own recent traumas and disappointments courageously examined and shared, TerKeurst gives us an introduction, followed by eleven engagingly titled and tidily arranged chapters. The first chapter, “Between Two Gardens” is a beautiful overview of the working metaphor throughout the book summarized in the these three quotes from Chapter 1:

“The Bible begins with the book of Genesis, set in the first garden of Eden. Never forget it ends with Eden restored in the last chapters of Revelation, the last book.”

“We see that all those harsh realities aren’t the end, but rather a temporary middle space. Not the place where we are meant to wallow and dwell. Rather the place through which we will have to learn to wrestle well....To wrestle well means acknowledging my feelings but moving forward, letting my faith lead the way.“

“I want to learn to wrestle well in this life between two gardens.”

Honest and insightful, this book is well-written, and delivered in the most compassionate of tones. Note to fellow feminists opposing patriarchal systems: I prefer materials that do not refer to God using exclusively masculine pronouns, or terms like “Heavenly Father”, which this book does, but the remainder of the content has proven so valuable to me that I decided to overlook it.

The “Going to the Well” section at the end of each chapter includes take-always for the chapter, a list of Scripture references, questions for reflection, and a prayer. I will be working through the book again, using material I downloaded from the author’s website: the “12 Scriptural Truths to Declare Over Your Disappointments” worksheets developed for the book are an attractive invitation to do in-depth spiritual formation devotions.

I recommend It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way for women interested in fostering a more intimate relationship with God. I expect it will appeal to an audience of adult women in all kinds of circumstances, at a wide range of ages. It can help one prepare for the inevitable disappointments life brings, provide support through them, and encourage growth from them. The availability of companion materials also makes it an option for small groups or Sunday School classes.